Adoptee Blogs

March 14, 2010, 6:45 pm

Yesterday was my "special day." That is what my family calls the day that my parents first got me. In recent years I've heard people call it "gotcha day" but like I special day better. It was always marked with a special meal and the re-telling of the first day my parents picked me up at the agency...

March 31, 2010, 9:38 am

I realize I'm a little late to the whole census discussion as it was discussed by Robyn already. And I've read about it on numerous other websites and in the media. The first time I heard the census form had separate categories for biological and adopted children I was surprised but sort of...

March 31, 2010, 6:46 pm

Last month I wrote the first in a series of search options - self searching . Today I will look at mutual consent registries. In future posts I'll examine other search options such as court and independent intermediaries, agency assisted searching, independent search consultants, private ...

April 10, 2010, 8:51 pm

I have five brothers - three older, two younger. I really enjoyed being the only girl. The advantages are endless - no hand-me downs, no sharing a bedroom, no one to steal your Barbie dolls  (although I do recall a head or two was ripped off by someone in our house). I am closest in age to...

April 11, 2010, 6:23 pm

Today I'm continuing my series on search options and focusing on court appointed confidential intermediaries. There are also private intermediaries and I will discuss that in a future blog post. Last month I discussed self searching and mutual consent directories . In future posts I'll...

April 18, 2010, 5:47 pm

Sometimes I get behind on blog reading. I use a blog reader so unless I go in and check it regularly (which sometimes I don't) the posts can really start to pile up. I'm sure this is a familiar problem for many. Sometimes I just need a break from reading/thinking about adoption stuff. Sometimes...

April 20, 2010, 6:45 am

This weekend I came across an interesting blog post that brought up an important issue. Should adoptive parents tell their children about the cost of their adoption ?   And how should parents explain it when it involved a discounted or special rate? As with most adoption related issues there is...

April 27, 2010, 9:21 am

I sometimes feel the way that John Raible described in his recent blog post . At every turn, I’ve watched a non-stop backlash as adult adoptees offer up their perspectives, only to be patronized, talked about, criticized, researched, publicly psychoanalyzed, infantilized,...

May 24, 2010, 9:02 am

Once again I'm continuing my series on search options and this post will focus on search angels. So far, I’ve looked at self-searching , confidential intermediaries , and mutual consent directories . In future posts I'll examine other search options such as independent intermediaries,...

May 25, 2010, 9:04 am

Names are such an important part of who we are as individuals. I always find it interesting how most people really seem to "fit" their name. How many times have we heard people say that is a perfect name for so and so? Sometimes we know that our parents had more than one name picked out for us...